There are lessons everywhere. Today on the menu: dancing

Today, I tried again to go dancing. A while ago (about 2 years ago) I decided it’s finally time to learn dancing. It fitted well and -to be honest- it helped that my friends had a similar idea. So I went Salsa dancing for a while. Every week. It was fun, but to be honest, I liked the social bit more. And that bit got more difficult, since the course was up to three hours. Beginners started, the next hour was for intermediates, the third hour for experts – at least from my point of view, since I never made it. Eventually, I started some other private things and had no time anymore.

Obviously, if I would have liked it better, I would have continued. But I didn’t really made progress. Neither in Salsa (difficult to start with), nor in Ceroc. Ceroc is much easier than Salsa. But even in Ceroc lessons I always reached the stage where I felt odd. I couldn’t do the same moves over and over. For two simple reasons:
* it’s boring, I guess as well for my partner. Somehow, I even loose the order of the moves, I’m that bored/unconcentrated/not into it. And I have no clue how to get back in track. Strange situations are the result.
* as soon as the partner knows the move as well (or even learns it as well), she is already moving as she should, not as I lead her. Therefore, I wasn’t sure whether I led her or not.

Today, after nearly half a year without dancing lessons, I tried it again. Similar feelings. But today I left before it got really awkward. Instead, I thought about my dancing for the very first time. I thought about whether it was good to leave once without feeling ashamed. I thought about that I tried today to ask an experienced dancer to show me how she really knows what I intend for her to do. That was good. I felt a bit like a quitter. That was bad.

And then I realised something. I read a blog a while ago about learning from Sources of Insight. In that article is a brief theory on learning based on two dimensions and two different ways of learning for each dimension: abstract or concrete and sequential or random. And now, it’s so simple. These dancing lessons are not fitting to my learning style! All this time, I try to learn dancing by examples. The lesson is concrete practise and the moves are more or less in random order (maybe selected by difficulty, but more by how it looks like). Instead I need an abstract introduction. I need an overview of all the possibilities first. Otherwise i can’t really use it and forget everything what I learned until the next week.

The positive result for me is instantaneously. I have a plan what to do next lesson. And once again I learned two important lessons.
1) If something doesn’t work out, think about why it doesn’t work. It’s that simple.
2) To have a framework in the back of your mind is helpful. Too many things are not processed in my mind, because I don’t have a hook to grab them. They pass by unnoticed. Once I heard something on a topic, I get sensibly. Once I’m sensibly for something, I can include it in my thoughts. In this case, I’m still not sure what class I fall into for the learning. Definitely the abstract learning, but I don’t know yet whether I need random or sequel data. But that doesn’t matter. I will find it out or will ignore the second dimension of the learning framework eventually if it doesn’t matter for me. But what is important, it made me think the next time I had a problem form that area.

One Week Free

I had one week free of work. That means obviously my normal work, but as well my MBA studies. What happened during that time?

  • I wasn’t really relaxed.
  • I didn’t really know what to do. I wasn’t bored. It was more like: I should have used the time better.
  • I didn’t understand how to focus on me and my needs (body & soul needs)

and:

  • I had time for myself. Even not knowing what would be best I did what I wanted to do.
  • I had time to waste without thinking what I should do.
  • My partner showed me all her love by not demanding anything.

What can I learn from this experiment?

  • It takes time to calm down.
  • It’s not easy to fill time if you hardly had any time before.
  • It’s good to discuss your situation with somebody who cares.
  • My body needs some action. The trip to the Cotswolds was great.

Implications for next time?

  • Expect less
  • Go away, so you can’t do anything and you don’t even realise that you don’t have anything meaningful to do. But do it like my friend Nick. 2 weeks Disneyland. There is hardly anything to do.
  • Have a good book.
  • Book stores are always great.
  • Enjoy the small things in life.
  • Do some physical exercises: walking, cycling, swimming, running.